Your Struggle Is REAL: ADHD in Adults Women

Women all over the world are often called out for behaving “not enough female likely”. As a result, we end up trying, suppressing, and hiding our emotions. Over explaining ourselves. Justifying our needs, and being highly apologetic for even having basic human needs, in the first place.

Existing as a woman is living under thousands of microscopic lenses.

You can call it a rant. But I will call it a fact.

Now wait, I know, you are here as your doc, or close friend, or the internet has suggested that you might be having ADHD. Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. And this news can be a relief as well as a new reason for grief for you. But, don’t worry most women often find out about ADHD when they have passed their preteen or teen years.

And probably as you have gone through marital disasters, financial roller coasters, unstable jobs, and too much accumulation of trauma before finding the real culprit for making them misfit for our cringed society is, “ADHD”.

What is ADHD?

ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder, recognized by symptoms as inattentive, impulsiveness, and hyperactivity. It is a brain disorder. The areas in the brain which control attention, concentration, and distractibility don't work completely, partially, or when triggered, for the person diagnosed with ADHD.

And this brain disorder can often lead the person affected to behave in a manner that is frowned upon socially. Especially for women. So, women under-report their symptoms of ADHD.

They do so by masking their symptoms to appear more acceptable and likable. But, as the responsibilities increase, symptoms of ADHD become very hard to be masked or hidden. And the woman either try self-harming/ suicide or accepts themselves as it (mostly like someone who is going to damage every good thing)

Why don't girls get diagnosed with ADHD?

As per the CADDAC organization report, boys with ADHD are 3 times more likely to get diagnosed, than girls with ADHD. That is 75% of the time women never get diagnosed. As everybody believes they are just acting up, or are just not good women, or were not disciplined not enough.

And they have been believing the same for ages, because of the given below symptoms of ADHD in girls:

1. Unable to keep focus

2. Daydreaming

3. Talkative

4. Overly sensitive

5. Face struggle in being social

6. Often speak without articulating first

7. Messy

8. Disorganized

9. Withdrawn from activities and gatherings

10. Sensitive to noises, fabrics, and food

What are the symptoms of ADHD?

1. Reaching anywhere on time.

2. Fired from several jobs

3. Being perfectionist

4. Feeling paralyzed with fear every time your boss asks for a meeting

5. Sever fear of rejection

6. Avoiding social situation

7. Being hyperactive

8. Being lazy

9. Picked last

10. Bullied

11. Feeling lost in mid-conversation

12. Feeling lost in mid-meeting

13. Very hard to complete educational courses

14. Repeated episodes of Depression

15. Anxiety

16. Panic attacks

17. Suicide Attempts

18. Called out for not behaving well

19. Rebellious rage

20. Facing hard to plan out the days

21. Keeping up with the plans to improve your skills

22. You don’t feel proud of yourself

23. You often don’t know who you are

24. Low self-esteem

25. Poor social skills

26. Have a very hard time completing the task that doesn’t excite you

27. You are very critical of your work

28. Feel a very strong urge to try a lot of things

29. Don’t feel old

30. Feel tired

31. Your brain often works in hyperlinks, where nothing is connected but everything is connected

32. Difficulty in telling your stories

33. Always thinking out of the box

34. Not aware that there is a box

35. Your brain is not ready to cooperate

Departing words…

ADHD is a different cognition system and a brain disorder. It has to be seen that way only. You have to understand yourself as you would give all to understand the fields that interest you. You have to try to challenge yourself to learn things that don't interest you but are very important.

Sometimes, you have to seek people or apps that will help you to set you free from the things that you don’t want to engage in.

And always seek people who are experts in the ADHD field, as women often get wrongly diagnosed as depressed or bipolar. And end up getting the wrong medication.

I hope this article was helpful.